Step 2: Set Your Boundaries Q&A

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Let's do a little boundary Q & A
There is so much to learn from each other

To play, just cut and paste these unfinished sentences in your comment and add your own info.  Have fun! 

Introduce yourself, your current obsession and one word to describe your mood today.
The craziest reaction I got from setting boundaries was...
My favorite boundary and consequence is...
My biggest boundary failure was when...
I got in the biggest trouble when I broke this boundary...
The most successful boundary/consequence I've worked on is...
If I could break any social boundary it would be...
My favorite quality in a man is...
My favorite quality in a woman is...
If I could go back one decade and change anything is would be...
I'm terrified that enforcing boundaries will...
I'm excited that that enforcing boundaries will...
My most elusive boundary questions is...
...gives me the confidence to stand strong in my boundaries.

I'll go first. 

Introduce yourself, your current obsession and one word to describe your mood today. Hi, I'm Scabs.  My obsessions change daily, today I had a mini-obsession with a little Great Gatsby style...hello 1920!   And my mood is borderline sour, Mr. Scabs and I had a brawl tonight.



The craziest reaction I got from setting boundaries was...when Mr. Scabs actually packed his truck with crap, squealed his tires and sped out of the driveway furious!  I couldn't believe he did it and that he pouted about it!  That was the day he got kicked out of the house.  Biggest boundary I ever pushed.


My favorite boundary/consequence is...honest communication with the consequence of distance between us.  It's just a natural effect of dishonesty.   I also love when we have moments of depth in our communication and I can open up and give Mr. Scabs bits of the closeness we are both seeking.  Honesty give me safety to touch him and love him.


My biggest boundary failure was when...I tried to control how Mr. Scabs worked the 12-steps with his sponsor.  Crash, burn. Classic mistake.


I got in the biggest trouble when I broke this boundary...obeying my Father.  One day I snapped and threw my Mom's mauve-painted garage sale wicker chair at him.  oops!


The most successful boundary/consequence I've worked on is...honesty.  Mr. Scabs has really responded to sharing the gory details and talking about the addiction is all it's aspects.  The consequence for his positive reaction to this boundary has been emotional intimacy. 


If I could break any social boundary it would be...that people are people no matter where they come from or what they believe in.  If I was contending for Miss America I would say, "World Peace"


My favorite quality in a man is...depth and a good smell.


My favorite quality in a woman is... genuine kindness


If I could go back one decade and change anything it would be...the number of children I have.  I always wanted a bigger family.  Although, I adore the children I have and feel blessed they are mine and healthy.  Always wanted to be swarmed by dirty feet and messy blonde haired kids begging for one more cheese quesadilla.


I'm terrified that enforcing boundaries will...turn me into a tyrant.


I'm excited that that enforcing boundaries will...give me respect and freedom.


My most elusive boundary questions is...consequences, how, when, why, what?


My renewed self love and recognition that I am a RAD woman...gives me the confidence to stand strong in my boundaries.


Your turn!